Are you dating for the first time in your 50s and worried that things might be harder for you now than they were when you were first in this game?
No worries, beautiful. You have more advantages now than you realize!
“Dear Claire, I am 50 years old and been single for 7 years. 5 years ago I decided to get back into the darting world as I was happy, content and busy with my life, my girlfriends and family, and thought a little romance would be wonderful.
I was open and tried many dating options, ie online, through friends, people I met through my work, I would go on dates only to find myself repeatedly in the same scenarios: 1) he “forgot” he was married or 2) declared his love for me after a couple of dates and wanted to get married the next week.
I saw the red flags and I never ended up in bed with these men.
My question is: do you think that dating later in life becomes much more difficult? even impossible?
It becomes very difficult to remain positive (romantically) after repeated bad experiences and I really feel that being single for the rest of my life would be less stressful.
I wish you continued success in your work and I look forward to each article received from you.” – Martina (in Spain)
Hi, Martina, I’m so pleased that you wrote, and I thank you for your sweet words.
Good for you for being a sexy, sensible woman dating in your 50s! You’re an inspiration to a LOT of women.
And good for you for seeing the red flags and getting out quickly.
And I realize you have kind of a bad taste in your mouth after your experiences. I have bad news and good news for you.
The bad news is that there are STILL deceitful, untrustworthy, and weird guys (and gals) out there in the world.
The good news is that there are plenty of wonderful ones, too.
Don’t let the bad ones stop you! EVERYONE has to deal with a bad apple now and then. I know you feel like you’ve had more than your share, but sometimes the cards just deal out that way.
And I know this about you: You are NOT the type to allow the jokers in the world to PREVENT you from pursuing and enjoying some romance in your life.
Really, as a woman dating in your 50s, you have so many advantages over younger women dating these days!
7 Advantages to Dating in Your 50s
1. You’re not looking for a man with a pristine past.
You already know that everybody has baggage, and you’re not likely to find that off-putting.
2. You already have relationship experience.
Remember how full of drama your first relationship fights were? Whew, glad that’s over. Nowadays you know how to speak up, work through problems, and get the things you need for yourself.
3. You’re probably much more comfortable with your sexuality.
When we are in our teens and early twenties, we’re still trying to figure all that stuff out. Not only that, you’ve long since figured out what your body needs to feel aroused and wonderful, and you can communicate that with him.
4. You’re not being driven by the “have a baby / start a family” urges.
If you’re dating in your 50s, you’re not looking for a baby daddy, and if you have kids already, they no longer need so much of your time and energy.
5. You might get to start something with a guy you already know.
Wow, the stories I could tell about old flames reconnecting on Facebook…
6. You don’t sweat the small stuff.
By the time you survive your 30s, you’re starting to figure out how to keep the main thing the main thing. When you’re dating in your 50s, you no longer fret over every itty-bitty compromise or flaw. Boy, does that ever make dating simpler.
7. You’re open to a wider age range in partners.
When you’re younger, you tend to have very specific expectations about what age your partner should be. If you’re 30 and dating a 20-year-old, that can be a little weird. When you’re 50 and dating a 40-year-old, it’s just not as big of a deal.
So start with those, beautiful
You’re a smart, gorgeous woman dating in your 50s. Spend some time loving what’s wonderful about your life! Then go out there and showcase it to those admiring single men. Be smart how you choose, and take your time getting to know your partner. Plenty of romance and pleasure is waiting for you.
