Sometimes you put yourself in the friend zone (because the two of you really are friends), but sometimes it sneaks up on you and suddenly you’re all like “Wait! What just happened? Was I just friend-zoned?”
You don’t WANT to be FRIENDS, you want to be the sexy goddess at the center of his life and lust and adoration…
You want him to wrap his arms around you at night, and breathe things into your ear that make you all shivery and hot at the same time…
So how do you get out of the friend zone and into his arms?
Here’s what you do. Imma give it to you in 3 steps plus a cherry bomb…
Out of the Friend Zone STEP 1: Stop being a friend and start being a GIRLfriend.
Don’t go out to see the game as “one of the guys,” or help him do boring tasks (goodbye sitting in the laundromat, watching clothes spin and eating tacos).
From now on, ONLY go out with him on REAL dates.
And if he’s not thinking them up and calling you to ask you out (You two have been “buddies” up to now, and nobody “dates” their “buddy.”), you take the initiative.
And no more deadly-boring or daily-routine texting, either. Stop answering his mundane “chat for hours about nothing” calls, emails, and text messages. Be sweet but unavailable.
And learn to text like the superfine hot goddess you are.
Here are a few ways you can let him know your goals for the relationship have changed (if he hasn’t already figured it out – which he may not, guys are slow on the uptake sometimes):
I’ve had to put some distance between us, because I’m not sure I can behave like “just a friend” any more…You’re too distracting for me. 😉
You look amazingly sexy in that tee shirt. Have you been working out?
Your scent is like a drug to me. Every time I get close to you I want to press my face to your chest and inhale you. : )
Was I staring at your shoulders just now? I totally lost my train of thought. You’re going to have to stop doing that to me!
I was wondering… (He says “What?”) …what it would feel like if I let you kiss me.
If he doesn’t instantly snap to (and experience difficulty with his jeans feeling too tight)… well, he may be a zombie.
Out of the Friend Zone STEP 2: Crank up the sex-ay
Learn the sexy body moves. Get your flirt on. Unleash your inner siren.
It’s time for you to be hotter than a Texas sidewalk in June. Hotter than a firecracker lit at both ends. Aim for smokin’ hot, girlfriend!
Don’t be afraid of the more radical appearance tweaks, either. Get that racy new haircut you have been thinking about. Try a color, or highlights. Get with your best girlfriends and go get a luxe makeover together so you can learn a few new makeup tricks.
And why not consider finally signing up for those kickboxing (or powerlifting!) classes or start running, training for a triathalon, or some fun new workout.
And do a check through your wardrobe. It’s shallow but 100% true that guys DO notice. Superfox, I am SO not above a push-up bra and stockings with a line up the back….
Why? Because they make him stutter.
Out of the Friend Zone STEP 3: Change your focus
Plunge into a fresh pursuit: a new career, hobby, cause, or whatever dream you’ve been putting off.
It’s this kind of joy-filled energy that makes you shine like a fresh piece of candy to him. He’s gonna wanna lick you up. 🙂
If you’re dating other guys (and I recommend it), do it with sincerity and pleasure. When he sees how other men desperately want you, he’s gonna start accelerating his move toward securing the prize.
The faster and harder you shake things up, the more shell-shocked and drooling you’ll have him.
And now for the cherry (bomb) on top…
Ask him for “manly” kinds of help.
I’m not saying you aren’t a strong, capable woman. You clearly are. But let him be an alpha man. Let him do the stuff men are hardwired to LOVE.
Let him open the door for you, protect you in a crowd, get you things, walk you to your door (btw, if he doesn’t kiss you ’cause he’s all “friends,” feel free to radically change that opinion by laying a deep, scorching-hot one on him, with a full-body press)…
You know the kind of things I mean.
Be sure to do this with some finesse…
That means don’t over-focus on him. Don’t be available all the time.
Instead, be the sexy-hot Queen: You can’t just give ALL your time to HIM – your time is valuable and in high demand.
Now go hit him with the big guns, Gorgeous!
You know you’re ready. Light the fire and watch the flames leap for the sky. Here comes romance… And check back in and let me know how it goes!
