Beef up your “body odds”
Okay, projecting a sexy, unrestrained confidence is a brilliant way to begin. But you can ALSO beef up your “body odds” so that when he encounters you he gets the kind of one-two punch that leaves him breathless. In an awesome kind of way. : )
Check out the Thriller Three below: surefire tactics for ensuring he can think of absolutely nothing else but you, you, and also… oh! You.
(And don’t forget, your Wake Up Gorgeous note will be waiting for you at the end.)
1. How to seduce a man using only your eyes
We talk about men as breast men or leg men or – I’m just gonna say it – ass men. Meaning that’s the body part in women they are most likely to hunt for, watch, appreciate, and salivate over.
Btw, most women are butt watchers. Tell me I’m wrong. You can’t, can you? Heh.
But the real truth is that your most powerful body part you have is your eyes.
Girlfriend, you can SO put the move on a man with your eyes, just like a man with a direct gaze and a slow smile can melt you where you stand.
Here are a few power moves for attracting and seducing a man using only your eyes…
- The Intense Gaze
This is a tactic that is totally unsettling and arousing to a man. People who are in love look at each other for longer periods of time than other people. When you look at a man, gaze at him slightly longer than you normally would. This has the effect of making him think the two of you are already connected. - Bedroom Eyes
When you look at something you really like, your pupils naturally expand. Physiologically this happens to let in more light so you’ll be able to really see what you’re looking at. It’s particularly noticeable in dim lighting, when your pupils expand anyway, but combine the two – something you really want to look at, and dim lighting – and you can see why this sexy, liquid gaze got the name “bedroom eyes.”
To make your pupils expand when you’re looking at a man you don’t intimately know yet, keep your eyes locked on his most attractive facial features. Think arousing thoughts, like how much you might like to see him in the shower, or what he’d look like with that shirt ripped off of him. Sexy, no? - Visual Tour
You’ve probably experienced having a man take a visual tour of your body. Now you can turn the tables on him and have him thoroughly rattled by taking your own visual voyage. Keep it in safe territory at first, concentrating on his facial features. Then make a few little side trips. Collarbones, shoulders, pecs. Careful around those hips. You may see evidence that your tactics are intensely effective! He’ll hardly know what hit him.
WATCH OUT FOR THIS SNEAKY PITFALL!
You may find that in a room crammed to the gills with guys, you’ll be able to lock eyes with any man there EXCEPT the one you’re most attracted to. I know, hate it when that happens. Give yourself a mental check – are you avoiding giving him the clear signal that you’re open to his attention? Suck it up and MAKE yourself do it. You can congratulate yourself when he’s panting at your feet. You powerhouse mama, you.
2. 19 body moves that leave men wonderstruck
To let your body tell him what you think, from his very first sight of you, you need a few of these moves in your arsenal. But be careful girlfriend, because they pack a ton of power in the tiniest possible packages.
What’s especially fantastic about them is that even though YOU are making the first move with these little come-hither bombs, guys think that because they respond (even though their response may be almost involuntary) THEY are the ones acting in the situation.
God bless the male ego.
Here’s the down and dirty list. Some are subtle, others are blatantly hot and sexy. Choose at your discretion, and don’t blame me if you try them and they work far too well. 🙂
- Beam him your thousand-watt smile
- Send over short darting glances from the corner of your eye
- Brush up against him “accidentally”
- Lick your lips (while making eye contact)
- Gently bite your lips (while making eye contact)
- Touch your exposed neck, or run a finger along your naked collarbone
- Tilt your head at him and grin wickedly
- Let him see you dancing alone to music – this works whether you are in a music venue or are listening to music on your headphones
- If you’re sitting next to him, slowly and deliberately slide your chair closer
- Run your fingers slowly through a lock of your hair when he is looking in your direction
- Do your “Honey and Cream” walk (liquid, slow, with hips!) past him
- Inhale deeply, then release your breath slowly while looking at him and barely smiling
- Point to a chair and invite him to sit with you
- Slowly uncross, then recross your legs while looking at him
- Lean slowly toward him and put your elbow on the table, hand in chin while looking at him (then smile!)
- When you know he’s watching, shimmy a little in your seat
- Inhale deeply and audibly through your nose as he passes you, let your head turn to follow him
- Let him see you visually checking him out
- If you’re sitting near him, allow your feet to touch his feet
Be courageous in letting your man know you’re in range and interested! Remember, guys are far less complex than you are and they absolutely rely on clear signals. So something that feels clear but subtle for you may be totally missed by a man.
3. Looking mint-fresh, smokin’ hot, and eyeball-popping scrumptious (every day!)
How you look has EVERYTHING to do with how you feel. So if you’re spending your time slouching around in raggedy tee-shirts, clunky shoes and “day three” (with no shower) hair, you’re hardly going to feel like the most tempting treat in the exclusive French bakery case.
You don’t have to dress provocatively or inappropriately for your age and taste, but you do want to feel like you are fresh, clean, and utterly irresistible. Because that makes him feel the same.
Think of it like dating yourself – what can you do to make YOU feel wonderful and attended to?
For me it starts with a pedicure.
See, I used to think my feet were my single ugliest body part. I wore heavy, ugly shoes – never sandals! – and tried to pretend my feet were a necessary but unfortunate liability. What a terrible mindset! Now I know ALL of me deserves to be treated like a like a queen, so I begin with my feet.
I pay for a pedicure (it’s a budget line item for me, honey!) every single month and I have plenty of lovely sandals and strappy, sexy heels because when I spend that much time and effort on beautiful feet, I somehow feel like the rest of me can and should be regally pampered, cared for, and beautified as well.
Take a whole body approach. Make sure to love yourself by eating healthy and taking time to get the exercise you want and need. Keep your legs shaved, your skin moisturized and glowing, and your hair and face clean and beautiful.
Toss out or donate to the thrift store the ugly, shapeless crap in your closet that you makes you feel frumpy, out-of-date, and miserable. Including those granny panties. (Do I need to say that twice?)
Learn to make sugar scrubs and mud masks, indulge in bubble baths and nail polish – all the “girly” things that make you feel even more fabulous.
It’s unmistakeably attractive when you are healthy and beautiful inside and out!
